I think this is a very beautiful experiment and a beautiful film that captures it.
Marilyn, just before the 6 minute mark:
I love what Ram Dass* said. Ram Dass says if you’re in a relationship for the money, for the sex, for the companionship – for any of those reasons – it’s not going to last. You have to be in it for, what he calls, to come to God together. Now, I don’t believe he means to take the other person to church. I think he means to evolve together. So to me, ‘come to God’ means that you’re helping the other person to evolve into the person they’re supposed to be and they’re helping you evolve.
This seems true to me. Sometimes, however, there is quandry. Someone has helped you evolve, and you’ve helped them evolve yet still it doesn’t last. Evolution is tough. That explains why love is so fucking painful. I have a hard time believing this, but maybe the lasting is less important than the profound change that results from having been together at all.
* Extra xos to Kathleen for sorting out who this guy was for me, so I could link it and learn more about him.